Why Women Reject Men – And How to Stop Rejection

by chadhooper on February 24, 2012

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Does it ever seem like no matter what you do women keep rejecting you? This is something that can be very frustrating. And worse, getting rejected by women all the time can have a very detrimental effect on your self esteem. So it is in your best interest to STOP getting rejected all the time, and the first step is understanding WHY women reject men.

This is a subject that I have really been fascinated with for a long time. And there’s a reason I find “rejection by women” such a compelling topic… You see, I have been rejected by a lot of women in my life, and I used to get really upset about about.

I’ve been dumped, laughed at, and cheated on. I’ve been stood up for dates, and I’ve had girls I was dating leave me at a party to go “hang out” with some other dude… So me and rejection have been acquainted for quite a long time now…

Over time, I have also discovered  how to stop getting rejected so much… In fact I don’t really ever get rejected anymore. Does that sound like a bold claim? More on that is a sec, but first here is a list of the top reasons why women reject men and idea on how to stop rejection before it happens.

The Top Reasons Why Women Reject Men:

1) She isn’t attracted to you… This reason should be obvious. If a woman doesn’t feel attracted to you then she won’t want to hang out later, go on a date, or make out with you. So if you don’t want to get rejected then the most important thing for you to focus on is becoming a more attractive person.

This doesn’t necessarily mean improving your looks, or getting a high paying job. These things can help, but your real focus should be on improving  your skills at talking to girls and flirting with girls… if you are good at these you can still attract women even if you are out of shape and broke.

2) She’s embaressed to be seen with you – Having a girl dis you hard when you try to approach her by saying something like “buzz off”, “I’m NOT interested” or “Why are you talking to me?” can hurt your feelings pretty bad. But, rather than blaming the girl for being mean, you’d do a lot better to understand WHY she is saying these things. The answer is pretty obvious: You aren’t coming across as “cool guy”…

Trust me, if a girl thinks that you are a cool guy she is NOT going to say anything like that to you. She doesn’t even need to be attracted to you right away. As long as she thinks that you are cool she’ll be polite and at least give you the benefit of the doubt and give a chance to attract her using those talking and flirting skills that I just mentioned.

How do you get her to see you as a cool guy when you first approach? Well the body language you use is very important… Women are good at picking up on nonverbal cues, so give her the non-verbal information that she needs about you first before you start trying to talk to her.

3) You act like a wuss or you come on too strong… Many times women will reject men because the guy doesn’t know how to progress from making friendly small talk and take things to a more intimate level.

There are two ways that guys mess up here. Either they wait too long and come across as nervous wimps, or they act to forward and aggressive and come across like creepy selfish jerks.

I would say it probably like a 95%-5% split… The vast majority of guys don’t come on strong enough and only a few are too aggressive, I think this is because the guys who are too aggressive realize the mistake that they are making pretty quickly and are able to correct it easily because all that they need to do is to hold back a little bit…

Shy guy have a tougher time here. The thing to remember is that if a woman is putting herself in a position where she is hanging out alone with like talking to you in the corner of a party for example, then she probably already likes you and won’t reject you… But if you don’t make a move she will probably reject you later because she’ll see you as “less than a man”.

4) You mess up your relationship – A lot of the time a woman will date you for a while and then reject you after a few weeks, months or even years. This kind of rejection is the worst because at this point you are already well invested in your ex and you have some really deep feelings for her.

When you get dumped it is easy to get mad at your ex and act like a victim. Instead, you should look at it as a learning lesson. 9 times out of ten the reason that she dumped you was because she stopped feeling good about you as a person… In other words something that you did, or didn’t do caused her to lose attraction for you.

Their are a lot of mistakes that guys can make in a relationship, but the most common are: giving up everything else in your life other than her, acting jealous, complaining and acting upset too much, and not making her feel special.

If you have an active life that you are happy with, and you make your girl feel special without acting jealous then she probably will want to stay with you for ever…

Rejection is not fun, but it’s a fact of life. Luckily though by learning about why women reject men you can greatly reduce the likely hood that you’ll be rejected in the future. And if you have already been rejected there are things you can do to get her back like I discussed in this review of the Text Your Ex Back program.

If you take the time to really educate yourself and understand what women want in a man, it is a lot easier to give them what they want and avoid being rejected in the future.

In closing try to see that rejection is really a “gift” because it teaches you what you need to do differently. Next time that a girl rejects you look at this list and see where you messed up, then fix that one thing.


Average Joe March 24, 2012 at 1:48 am

Odds of making 10 out of 10 baskets. one in ten trillion. You’d have to do it a trillion times just to get the odds close.

1 in 175711536, odds of winning Mega millions

Your odds of being attacked by a shark are just one in 11.5 million.

chances of a meteor hitting me on the head, one in 20,000,000,000,000 (trillion)

odds of me getting laid or having a girlfriend one in 1000000000000000000000000 (Yottabyte) 10 to the 24th.

It would take approximately 11 trillion years to download a Yottabyte file from the Internet using high-power broadband.

Assuming that one-half of the world’s population is women, the number of women of childbearing age is around 1.6 billion. I would need to question every woman of child bearing age on a date every minute for the next 171 trillion years. By then I would dead, the sun will have burned out, the earth would be a cinder and the solar system would not exist. Hmm? I’m going to try and build a craft, maybe launch it into space and attain near-light speed, approximately 98% the speed of light, so I don’t upset Einstein’s special theory of relativity. So if I do manage to make it to a nearby planet in a few years I can question an alien “woman” or whatever it may be, out on a date, because earth girls are not easy. If any one wants me, I’m going to be very busy the next few years going over some NASA blueprints. I will be in the garage behind some metal and using an ion reactor. Thanks for nothing.

franko April 5, 2012 at 2:13 pm

that is the problem today, so many women are rejecting men. why in the world is that? i am a straight man that had been married at one time, and i was a very caring, loving, and understanding husband at the time. she cheated on me, and this made me very hurt. i mean, who would not be? i never ever cheated on her, and i loved her and was very committed to her as well. now that i go out a lot, i seem to meet so many nasty women nowadays. many of them now, have such an ATTITUDE PROBLEM too. i am tired of getting REJECTED because, i did not do anything wrong on my part to cause it. i never realized that there were so many ROTTEN NO GOOD WOMEN TODAY, especially now that many of them are LEzS TOO. of course this will add to the problem now. what a shame, so many LOW LIFE LOSER WOMEN TODAY.

Goliath April 20, 2012 at 9:56 pm

Women today think they have been overly empowered by the feminist movement. I’m not a sexist at all. It’s great that they can be independent and work in corporations and do whatever they want just like we men can… but oh how easy it is to blame us men for everything now. I’m 24, I’ve had ONE girlfriend who, by the way, stole $2000 from me. I’m kind and gentle with women. I’m polite and courteous. That list of things women always say that they want pretty much describes me. But for whatever reason, they will NOT date me. I doubt I could PAY a girl to date me. I’m always the boy friend but never the boyfriend and when the ass they ARE dating cheats on them or strikes them (bastard) or what have you, guess who they come crying to. “Why can’t I find a guy who’s as sweet as you!?” Ummm… let’s see here… you’re crying on his shoulder and telling him how terrible your current boyfriend is, while asking why it can’t be better, when he has asked you out two or three times but you keep rejecting him because he’s ‘just a friend’.” I’m starting to get pretty bitter about the whole thing. It’s been like this for 10 years. I’m to the point where I think I’ll be taking the $50k I will be making yearly and doing what I want with it instead of dealing with women who are apparently too damn stupid to see the best guy they might ever date while they’re literally being held by him…

Chad April 24, 2012 at 12:54 am

Thanks for the comments guys.

I wanted to address what Goliath had said about how no women want to date him, and how he is starting to feel bitter about it.

The main thing that I wanted to get across in this post is you shouldn’t blame women for rejecting you or get bent out of shape, angry, bitter etc… about it.

It’s not a woman’s “fault” that she isn’t attracted to you and that she doesn’t want to be with you… That’s just how she feels, so how can you blame her for that?

Instead you should take it as an opportunity to learn about what women really want in a man, so that you can attract more women and keep them from losing attraction for you in the future.

Yeah, it’s annoying to see women dating guys who seem like jerks and passing over “nice guys”… But there is a biological reason why they are attracted to some men and not others.

You can try to swim against the stream, fight nature and feel bitter. OR – you can educate yourself on this topic, and become a man who has a lot of choice with women…

I just launched a new 14 Day Attraction & Dating Skills Crash Course that I recommend signing up for, it’s free.

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