What does she see in him...?
Today I wanted to talk about something fundamental to your success with women and discuss how to get a girl to like you… Because let’s be honest here, if girls generally dislike you, or they always say that they “just like you as a friend” your dating life is not going to be much fun at all.
It’s important, and it’s something that you should be focusing on.
So how do you do it?
Step #1 Of How To Get A Girl to Like You – Fix Any Glaring Problems…
One of the most important things when set out to make yourself more attractive to women is that you fix any glaring problems that are turning women off. After all, women aren’t even going to have a chance to like you if you scare them away immediately.
The problem is that most guys are unaware of the things that they are doing that are keeping the women away… and a lot of times other people won’t tell you what these problems are because they don’t want to be rude or hurt your feelings.
So there are a couple things you can do here:
First find somebody who can give you honest feedback. If you have any attractive female friends, or really any females at all ask them what you can improve upon.
A lot of times these girls will say stupid stuff like “you are fine just the way that you are…” But don’t let them pull that junk. Tell them that you are a man and that you can take it!
It can actually be kind of a blessing to have a friend who is willing to tear you apart and tell you everything that is wrong with you, you’ve just got to grow a pair and not get all butt hurt when you get some helpful criticism…
Second, be proactive, for example:
- If you think that there is even a CHANCE that you have bad breath then start chewing gum.
- If you think you might be getting a little fat, hit the gym.
- If you think you wardrobe is dating, buy some new clothes…
Step #2 Get A Girl To Like You By Being A Social Guy
One of the quickest ways to get women to like you is to be a guy who EVERYBODY LIKES. So it’s important to develop sharp social skills and learn how to interact effectively with everybody you meet.
Think about it from a girl’s point of view, why would she want to date a guy who doesn’t have friends or who is uncomfortable socially? A guy like that would be a nightmare to date because he would just cause one awkward situation after another.
A lot of guys don’t want to hear this one, because it takes work. But that’s just the way it is… If want quality women in your life then you’ve got to develop yourself into the kind of man that women want to be with.
If you are a socially awkward dude then this isn’t going to happen for you overnight, but if you choose to develop this side of yourself their is no reason why you can’t become a real social badass.
Get started by being more open to all the people that you come into contact with, and I mean everybody. Just talk to people. When you go into the coffeeshop in the morning talk to the dude behind the counter. Say, “yo what’s up man, what’s going on? How’s the coffee today? Where are the chicks at? How about those Yankees’s?”
Get it? Small talk… Chat people up.
If you are a shy guy, start slow by talking to people that you don’t find intimidating and then gradually pushing your boundaries.
This way you’ll slowly find yourself more and more comfortable talking to anyone, and people will naturally gravitate towards you because they will see that you are a social guy.
You should also make an effort to spend more time with the friends that you already have. Chances are you have at least one friend that you could call up and hang out with, right?
So instead of just staying in, meet up with a buddy and see if he has any other friends that he can invite to hang out. Then, make friends with those people, and then meet their friends and so on.
before you know it you’ll be walking into the party and like ten dudes will all be giving you pounds – trust me women notice this kind of thing and it is very attractive to them.
Step #3 Stop Using Approval Seeking Behavior To Get Girls To Like You…
It’s ironic, but trying to “get girls to like you” can actually be counter productive.
You see, what most guys do is they engage in these “approval seeking behaviors” that actually make women reject men. These behaviors usually take the form of trying to impress a girl, or agreeing with her about everything and basically just kissing her butt.
These types of behaviors are obvious to women and they make you look like a weak manipulating loser.
You see, women like guys who are already winning at life and have a lot of options of different girls that they can date. And guys like this don’t need to resort to these kinds of punk tactics.
Also, the fact is that a girl doesn’t necessarily need to “like you” on a logical level to feel attraction. So trying to impress her or show her that you are a “nice guy” that she has a lot in common with just flat out won’t work.
Step #4 Get Her to Like You By Acting Confident
Everybody knows that women like confident men.
The trouble is that guys will often get confused about how to be confident and the get hung up on trying to develop this “rock-solid inner-game” before they go out and talk to women.
Don’t get me wrong, this inner game stuff IS important, but don’t let your lack of “real confidence” stop you from macking on girls.
The truth is that women can’t tell if your confidence is real or fake, so you need to go out there and act confident no matter what.
This means not sitting around not making a move because you don’t know if it’s the right time to kiss a girl or not.
And nothing will build your confidence faster than getting out there and having some real success.
Step #5 Learn To Flirt And Talk To Girls
Flirting and talking to girls are two subjects I emphasize very strongly. At the end of the day if you can’t talk to a chick, you aren’t gonna be dating her and that’s all that there is to it.
Even if you go through all of the other steps, if you can’t flirt and talk you’re done son.
So I’ll highly recommend really studying how to talk to girls so that you can really master this skill. It will be time well spent.
The key is in learning how to have conversations that make a woman feel emotions. Conversation that are way more fun and exciting than the conversations that she has been having with the other twenty guys that she has in “orbit” trying to get her to like them.
If this is a subject you are interested in I recently wrote a review of Bobby Rio’s Conversation Escalation program that goes into a lot of detail on this…
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